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an excerpt from Henry Drummond’s book, the greatest thing in the world…

since earliest times people have asked the great question: What is the supreme good? You have life before you. You can only live it once. What is the noblest object of desire, the supreme gift to covet?

We have been accustomed to be told that the greatest thing in the religious world is faith. That great word has been the keynote for centuries of the popular religion; and we have easily learned to look upon it as the greatest thing in the world. Well, we are wrong. If we have been told that, we may miss the mark. In the 13th chapter of 1 Corinthians, Paul takes us to Christianity at its source, and there we see, ‘The greatest of these is love.’

It is not an oversight. Paul was speaking of faith just a moment before. He says, ’ and if I have all faith, so that I can remove mountains, and have not love, I am nothing.’ So far from forgetting, he deliberately contrasts them,. ’ Now abideth faith, love, hope’, and without a moment’s hesitation the decision falls, ’ The greatest of these is love.’

–and so, if u have loved, u have done the greatest thing in the world.

July 31'07

http://www.jesus.org.uk/vault/library/drummond_greatest_thing.pdf

Relationship Principle. (repost from my Multiply account)

• To let go we must recognize that he might have been CLOSE to the right man for us, but infortunately, he was not the one. 
• The best time to get involved again is when you feel as if you don’t have to. 
• To forgive our ex-partner doesn’t mean we have to return to the relationship.
•  When we are fully able to experience the pain of holding on, then we automatically let go. 
• PAULO COELHO “No one waits forever, i will find love again..” -the zahir 
• FROM; WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES: Men tend to feel at ease with a woman who doesn’t care so much because then he doesn’t have to be fully responsible for someone else’s happiness. When a man sees you are happy with him BUT YOU CAN BE JUST HAPPY HAVING NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM, that’s when he won’t want to leave your side. WHEN YOU ARE HAPPY, YOU ARE SEXY. 
• Every guy knows he can find a girl who is simply satisfied with satisfying him. There are much more turned on by a woman who cares about her own pleasure as well. 
• You can tell how much someone RESPECTS you by how much he respects your opinion.
•  If he doesn’t respect your opinion, HE WON’T RESPECT YOU. -when you “go along to get along” or are too agreeable and passive, you invite his disrespect. 
• Men like to be CURIOUS. They like to feel that there’s more to the story than what they already know. -when im not quite sure how much she likes me, that’s when the challenge is on. 
• The mental challenge is not, “Can i get her to sleep with me?” The mental challenge is “Can i get her and keep her attention?" 
• As soon as a man has his guard up, he will not fall in love or get attached. The only way he’ll get attached is if you lower his guard first. 
• When a woman rushes in too quickly, a man will assume she is in love with a "fantasy” or the idea of having a relationship. But if he has to SLOWLY win her over, incrementally, he’ll think she’s falling in love with who he is. -he wants to feel like he won a special girl who isn’t easily obtained.
• There’s nothing more prized to a man than something he had to wait for, work for, or struggle a little bit to get. -when a man is in pursuit mode, he gets the same feeling he get when he’s playing a slot machine in casino. He can lose 10x in a row, but he’ll still be on the edge of his seat thinking “I’m almost winning!" 
• Don’t be so blunt, obvious, or available that you come across as having already made up your mind about the guy. -the whole art of seduction involves the appearance of SLIGHT elusiveness. 
• When a woman makes a man feel he’s trusted, it makes him feel strong and worthy. It makes him want to be honorable and do the right thing. 
• Men love knowing there’s a small part of you that they can’t get to. 
• The magic formula is to give a little and then pull back. -it’s a little like a schoolyard game of tag, and you are "it”. If you stand there, he’ll stop chasing you. But if you keep moving, he’ll keep chasing after you. 
• Women are constantly being told amazing sex will win a man’s heart. This is false. Just because a man sleeps with you doesn’t mean he cares about you. Nor will good sex make him care about you. 
• The way to weed out the contenders from the pretenders is to assess their attitude about waiting for sex. If he likes you, he’ll be happy just being in your company. 
• The purpose of waiting is not just to seem classier. You also want to give yourself time to observe him and find out key facts about him. 
• He who tells you he is in the beginning has very little to with how he will treat you. If there’s sex involved, he’ll promise you things you’ve never even heard of. 
• “EVEN THE BRIGHTEST DAYS HAVE THEIR SUNSETS” “Its really hard to freeze in sweetness when someone has already melted you..into something bitter..” (ampalaya shake mode) Men are intrigued by anything they do not completely control. When you maintain a bit of privacy and he has to wonder a little where you are, you are stimulating his imagination. The second he can’t he cant get ahold of you he’ll send out an APB or"all points bulletin" to find you. 
• Always preserve the mystery. Keep the sex sporadic and unpredictable. It makes it much more intense for a man. 
• When a woman reacts emotionally, men get 3 things: attention, control and the feeling of importance. 
• When you are easily manipulated, he will assume he doesn’t have to give as much in the way of a commitment in order to keep you there. The best way to set limits with a guy when he’s testing you is by controlling the ebb and flow of your attention. An emotional reaction is always a reward, even if its negative attention. -it is a cross between a “gotcha” game and pop goes the weasel. (you=weasel). He’s looking to see if you’ll be able to hold your own whether you will fall apart like a 5yr old having a tantrum @ toys r us. 
• Men hear what they see. 
• When a man tries to make you jealous, it rarely has anything to do with his desire for someone else. When you are upset, he gets the reassurance that you care. 
• Once you start doing the same thing he was doing, suddenly, the bad behavior will magically disappear. 
• When a man doesn’t call, a bunch of scenarios will typically run through a woman’s mind. Similarly, his imagination will run wild when he doesn’t hear from you. 
• The more rational and calm you remain, the more emotional he will become. 
• To a man, it is totally inappropriate to be emotional when talking about something important. When you speak calmly, he assumes its much more important.